TBR: Tools for Better Relationships
A Working Manual for Instructors and Individuals
by Terry N. Hoagland

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Unlock the secrets to building meaningful connections with Tools for Better Relationships (TBR). This essential teaching manual offers practical, proven tools to help individuals build stronger, more fulfilling relationships at home, at work, and in life. Drawing from years of teaching experience and real-world use, this guide is designed for adults of all ages, and with guidance, for middle and high school students. Whether you're navigating challenges with family members, colleagues, or friends, this book empowers you to make better decisions, manage your emotions, and understand others in a deeper, more compassionate way. Centered on the principles of emotional intelligence, the manual covers a wide range of skills, from self-awareness and -management to empathy and conflict resolution. These tools aren't just for fixing problems—they are for preventing them by helping individuals develop positive communication habits and address emotional reactivity. Those who apply these skills and insights will find greater success in their personal and professional lives, creating lasting connections and enduring setbacks with grace. This guide blends theory with applicable tools to equip individuals with the skills necessary to foster healthier relationships. Whether used in group settings or for individual study, Tools for Better Relationships serves as a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their intra- and interpersonal dynamics and build stronger, more resilient relationships. Learn how to communicate, understand, and connect better with others—because the most enriching relationships begin with emotional intelligence.

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"I wish they would have taught this in high school!" If I would have known this stuff earlier, I would have been able to save myself a lot of trouble in my life."

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Terry N. Hoagland is a seasoned educator and school administrator with nearly fifty years of experience. Over the course of his career, he has taught over a thousand students in his classes and supported still more in his administrative roles across almost all educational levels. Since 2012, Terry has been instructing and coaching adults on the vital skills of emotional intelligence, communication, and relationship-building. His work has had a profound impact on many, particularly those facing challenges including issues of domestic violence. Recognized as a Qualified Mental Health Professional (QMHP) by the state of Oregon, Terry’s practical experience and expertise in mental health management and relational skills have made him a trusted resource for schools, community organizations, and individuals looking to strengthen their relationships to themselves and to others. He is frequently called upon to share his insights and tools, which have helped countless individuals improve their emotional well-being and relational success. Now retired, Terry lives in Brownsville, Oregon, and continues to mentor and educate others about the power of emotional intelligence and effective communication in building strong, lasting relationships. This is his first book.

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Contributors

Author

Terry N. Hoagland

Editor

Carolyn Rexius

Illustrator

Sandy Silverthorne