- 150 pages
- Black & White
- 5.0 x 8.0 inches
- eBook (epub, mobi, pdf)
- 978-1-5255-0856-1 eBook
- 978-1-5255-0855-4 Paperback
- 978-1-5255-0854-7 Hardcover
- Family & Relationships, Death, Grief, Bereavement
- Self-Help, Death, Grief, Bereavement
- Biography & Autobiography, Personal Memoirs
Grief and bereavement, Losing a loved one, Dealing with death, Mourning, Resilience, Cancer, Self help
Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings
Once upon a time, Heike was one of those capable and organized people who envisioned her own happily ever after. But when her brother and husband died eighteen months apart, both far too young, it hit her hard. On good days, she would find herself staring blankly into an abyss, and on bad days, being vertical was a big accomplishment. It took years to come to terms with her loss and begin to piece together her new normal.
This book documents the idiosyncrasies and mindboggling behaviour that accompany grief. It is the poignant portrayal of one woman learning to accept that grief is not something to move on from, but something that must become part of her story. At times angry, sad, raw, and painful, Heike shows us that grief can also be funny, edgy, and weirdly liberating. Anyone who is grieving will recognize themselves in her writing and find solace in not being alone. As bizarre as grief can be, it is normal, and there is hope.
Mertins is hardly the first author to tackle the topic of losing a loved one, but what makes this work unusual and compelling is her adamant refusal to file the rough edges of her emotions in order to make the readers more comfortable. Speaking to others who have experienced a similar loss, she clearly encourages them not to deny or hide their emotions simply because society has set an arbitrary time limit on sorrow. A thoughtful, honest take on the messy, complicated process of grieving. - Kirkus Reviews
Heike Mertins lives in Toronto in an apartment filled with light. This is her first book and one she never intended to write. “Life surprises us” has become one of her signature phrases. She loves travelling and simple pleasures such as a strong cup of coffee, a good book and sharing a decent meal with friends. She continues to move forward in her life and will be forever grateful to those who helped her get past standing in the closet smelling her husband’s shirts. It is her personal mission to challenge the taboos of grief and help others live with loss.
Author photo taken by Justin Robinson.
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