The Relationship Coach
Your Playbook for Unlocking the Combination to a Successful Relationship
by John F. Sullivan

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My real goal in writing this book is for you the reader, especially if you are experiencing difficulties in your relationship, to come away knowing that you are not crazy, and that there is hope. The tools are available in today’s world to have the relationship of your dreams. What are those tools? Your playbook explains the four key pieces for unlocking the combination to a successful relationship. Your relationship has to be safe. Your old reptilian brain has a 500 million year history; you are not going to change it. If you don’t feel safe you will defend yourself. You must eliminate any negativity in the Space-Between. Think of your relationship as the two of you plus the Space- Between you. It is a real energy field and you can tell when there is tension in the Space-Between. It is either tension free or it is not. There is no middle ground. Negativity in the Space-Between causes disconnect and what you want is connection. You want to refill the Space-Between with positives. If your old brain hears affirmations and appreciations on a daily basis, it can relax. You feel connected. This is not the enemy over there; it is my ally, my friend; we are on the same team. You must learn to talk to your partner in a safe way. There will always be things to discuss in your relationship. The Safe Conversation process gives you a system and structure to do just that. To love well is a skill, but like any skill, it needs practice. You now have the playbook to create the relationship you want. It is up to you to put these ideas into practice.

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"If you want a simple, clear and effective guide to the relationship of your dreams, you have found it. The author has taken all the mystery out of the process of creating a dream relationship and made an effective process available for everyone. Read this book for the transformation of your relationship." Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. the authors of Getting the Love You Want

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After experiencing a breakdown 15 years into their marriage, John Sullivan and his wife discovered Imago Therapy. They have now celebrated 49 years of married life using this system. John was personally trained by Dr. Harville Hendrix, the creator of Imago Relationship Therapy, and over the last 34 years, has taught countless couples the four basic skills that can help anyone create a better relationship. The Relationship Coach takes you through these skills to enable you to improve your communication with your partner and to create your dream relationship. I prefer the term coach to therapist or counsellor, as the connotation around those words is that there is something wrong with the person, whereas as a coach, there is nothing wrong with my players, but sometimes what they are doing is not working. I believe the same is true of relationships. Often what people are doing is not working as well as they would like, but know - The tools are available in today's world to have the relationship of your dreams.

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