When Love Is a Scam
Subtle Hidden Motives That Disadvantage Good People in Relationships
by Peter Obiefuna

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When Love Is a Scam is an eye-opening exploration of the hidden dynamics shaping love in romantic relationships, family bonds, and spiritual communities. Peter Obiefuna challenges the widely held belief that love is always selfless and fair, revealing how societal expectations and personal motives can quietly undermine relationships. Through real-life examples and thoughtful insights, the book examines topics such as gender roles, financial pressures in marriage, and the complex influence of extended family and external support systems. With a reflective and compassionate yet provocative approach, the author invites readers to rethink what they’ve been taught about love and to redefine it as a space for mutual respect, autonomy, and growth. Whether addressing the emotional burdens placed on men, the societal expectations imposed on women, or the unspoken power dynamics within extended family and spiritual institutions, When Love Is a Scam empowers readers to set boundaries, question ingrained norms, and reclaim love on their own terms.

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“Peter Obiefuna’s book helps all of us examine our motives and expectations—even the ones we didn’t realize were there. If we’re willing to ask hard questions and admit where things went off course, this book can be the beginning of healing.” —Greg Musselman, Minister-at-Large, The Voice of the Martyrs Canada, Former Host of 100 Huntley Street “This book is not an indictment but a heartfelt call for introspection, reform, and a return to love’s true mission—in our families and our faith communities.” —The Honourable Justice Emem Madu, Alberta Court of Justice, Edmonton Family & Youth Division “Whether you’re navigating romance, family, or faith, this book offers rare wisdom and practical clarity... What sets this book apart is its empowering message: love, at its best, is a shared journey of mutual respect, autonomy, and growth.” —Dr. Dike Odimuko, Denomination Superintendent, All Nations Full Gospel Churches International

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Peter Obiefuna is a scientist, medical physiologist, computer scientist, and lawyer. He has practiced family law, provided family counseling for several years, and held various leadership roles within church organizations. His analytical skills and attention to detail, sharpened by his diverse training, enable him to approach challenges with precision and depth. Dr. Obiefuna is a member of the Law Society of Alberta and the family counseling unit of the Igbo Cultural Association of Edmonton. He and his wife live in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, and have three children.

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